Soni's Spark Shack

✨ Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Are Selfies Really That Bad After All? ✨
By Sonja Foos Brothwell | Soni’s Spark Shack

Let’s take a little trip back in time—say, before 1990. Back when saying “I look great in this dress” was like setting off a pride alarm. If you dared to say “I love how I l ook,” someone would either scold you, give you a weird look, or whisper about how full of yourself you were.

We weren’t supposed to say nice things about ourselves. Nope. That was “conceited.” That was “sinful.” That was… somehow against the rules.

But here’s my question: why?

Why were we taught to hide our confidence? Why was feeling beautiful treated like something you needed to apologize for?

Now fast forward to today.
The world is full of selfies—at home, in the car, with pets, with plants, and sometimes even in the middle of a dentist appointment (still not sure why that one’s a thing).

Some people roll their eyes and say, “Ugh, everyone’s so full of themselves these days.” But I see something different.

What if all these selfies aren’t just about looks?
What if they’re about being seen?

Let’s be real: life can make us feel invisible sometimes. Posting a photo might just be someone’s way of saying, “Hey world, I’m here. I exist. I matter.”

Sure, there’s a line between confidence and obsession. But honestly, everything can get out of balance—even water, if you drink too much of it (true story).

The way I see it, selfies can be a healthy thing. A little spark of self-love. A moment where someone chooses to feel good in their own skin and share it.
That’s not vanity. That’s bravery in pixels.

So next time you take a photo of yourself that makes you feel bold, or cute, or powerful—do it.
Post it. Own it. Love it.

You’re not being vain.
You’re being real.
You’re saying, “I see me. And I’m worth seeing.”